Lily, our daughter, and second child was born one week ago today. There are a lot of things I am feeling and learning already. But, allow me to share the one strongest feelings I have had since Lily arrived.
Last Saturday, just after the birth (less than 15 minutes), I told Tricia and her Doctor that this experience has only increased my love for my wife. Listen, I LOVE my kids...with a type of love I have never felt. But, when you have spent 13 years of love and almost 10 years of marriage with a woman you've been through thick and thin with, and she is now giving you your second child, you REALLY LOVE A WOMAN! My first response to Lily's birth was a deeper love for Tricia, my wife for life!!
She has been faithful. She has been honoring. She is full of inegrity and honesty. She has followed Jesus radically. She is a woman of noble character. She believes in me more than anyone on the planet. She serves our home. She sacrifices for all 3 of us. After Jesus, she is my everything.
Growing up, when my Mom would upset one of us kids, we would go to Dad, who, though he administered most of the spankings, was typically softer than Mom. While trying to get Dad to side with us, he would ALWAYS say "your Mother was here long before you and she will be here long after you"! That stuck with me and it formed me.
Look, I love these kids with crazy love. But not like I love their Mother. She is top, my gem, my angel. Has been since 1999 and will be until y'all attend my funeral or we attend hers.
While you will not find a Bible verse to say this is how it must be, you will find many that suggest that this is how it should be. God never asked you to love your kids like Christ loves the church or to become one flesh with them, did he? (Genesis 2:24 & Ephesian 5:31-33)
PS- I know this easier for Dads to say than Moms. I will leave you to think through that.