Our Bipolar Marriage

Tricia and I celebrated 10 years of marriage last week.  And I am madly in love with this woman who keeps growing and becoming more stunning on the inside and the outside with each passing month. But here is something I want to share out of our journey. We have learned a lot about marriage and love in our years together. But, here is a lesson we have learned that you do not hear very often that we are ready to go public with:

Our marriage is bipolar.

Huh? What do you mean?

Well, bipolar means "having or relating to two poles or extremities" or "to be characterized by opposite extremes". Yeah, I know there is also a psychological disorder that goes by the same name.

But here is my point:

Sometime marriage is awesome! Life is good, you are in love, feelings are bubbly, sex is magical, and no one is in the doghouse.

Then, there are times (sometime a week after the last state) when you cannot seem to get one thing across without misunderstanding, feelings are less than "lovely", hearts are cold and sex...what sex?

Ok, so maybe it's not that bad, but the truth is, your marriage can feel bipolar at time.  We think it is normal. We feel healthy. Maybe you have felt this way before too and wondered what was wrong with you. I don't think anything is wrong with you. Keep working at it. Keep loving. Keep faithful. And every year it gets better and better if you are committed to it for life.

And this concludes my (perhaps bad) marriage advice for the day...